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magic-lists   Our first real disagreement erupted at the kitchen table on a Saturday morning in late May. Aubrey and I hardly knew each other at the time. We had spent a total of three weekends together since we met in early March—the first on a blissful fishing trip in the Ozarks, the other two trading visits between his home on the Eastern Shore of Maryland and mine in Memphis. We had both been married before: he, a recent widower; I, married twice, a divorcee and a widow. He was retired. I was the owner of a contemporary art gallery in Memphis and a partner in a gallery on 57th Street in New York City. We’d been introduced by his cousin from Baltimore, a lifelong friend of mine. The attraction was instantaneous, so much so that we spent those six days together in pure enjoyment of our late-in-life pleasures and commonalities, believing that each of us had found perfection in the other. Without warning, during our second cup of coffee after breakfast, we began having a stupid argument.

“You’re really a stubborn broad,” Aubrey said in response to my refusal to spend the remainder of the morning with him.

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Mirror, Mirror….

CTL-400Mirror Mirror on the wall, Who is the fairest of them all?

We ALL are women that sometimes fall, but we always get up and stand so tall

Mirror Mirror on the wall, Who is the fairest of them all?

I am! Mirror, she said firmly

I am a mother, I am a wife, I am a friend, I am confidant to the end

I am strong, I am weak, I can cry but not for weeks

I have dreams and I have goals that I will ACHIEVE down the road

Yes Mirror I am me,

I may be fat, or I may be thin, but I love the skin that I’m in

Friends have came and friends have gone, but til the end I am still strong

I am ME and I will be all that I can be, I promise this to you & ME!

She felled to my knees and started to pray….

“Dear Lord thank you for this day!

Amazing grace, how sweet the sound, I once was lost but now I’m found, I once was blind but now I see, Dear Lord thank you for making me!”

(They all picked up their mirrors)

She looked at the mirror, and the mirror looked back

Then the mirror asked “what do you see”

They all replied,

I see a Phenomenal woman that believes in Me!

Written by Kim Hill

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 I wrote this poem when I thought of all the phenomenal women that had signed up to help me celebrate the togetherness of sisterhood and what it means to have a strong support system, not only from your family or the community but the support and encouragement of other women. There were 20 women in attendance, we shared our struggles, our triumphs and we even chose either to have an accountability partner or to be a Mentor to give that extra boost, an unexpected phone call or a simple text that just says, “keep going, you can do it, I got your back” I think that I speak for all the women in attendance when I say that the friendships that were started, along with the unlimited mimosas, :) was an event that we will never forget. Thank you to all that came out….xoxo (See pictures below)

 Continue to support us!

Kim Proctor – Dentist James Proctor DDS 901.821.9852

T Seals – Boutique Body Decor 404.941.0765

Andrea Johnson – Body Skin Food Bubble Bistro 901.272.2300

Tonya Marie – LMT – Hands that Relax the Body – 901.496.4224

Larrie Rodriguez – Massage TherapistMidtown Massage & Bodywork 901.596.3838

Kim Hill – Serial EntrepreneurKim Hill Agency, Eric’s Homemade Butter Cookies, Real Estate Mentor

Kisha Landfair – Event DesignerS is for Sweet  901.721.5528

Alicia McKinley – Boutique – Retail Studio 901.288.6407

Cleopatra Bake – Bakery Owner – Cupcake Cutie 901.729.6514

April Echols – Shoe Store OwnerSweet Soles – 901.590.4935

Petra Walker – Real Estate Agent – 901.859.1271

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Chinese New Year Kim Hill Style

If your name was anywhere on my email list then you got a personal invite for my private New YearsKim'sNYE-109 Eve celebration. If not you missed a real treat! The theme was the Chinese New Years, geared from my family’s Christmas Around the World. The event took place in the privacy of my home and I had over 150 RSVPs but only the first 75 were allowed to attend. So if you missed this one, never fret I will be doing more events this year and the first invites always goes out to my VIP, so make sure your name is on the email list on the right hand side of this page! Now check out the pictures and look for the one where they made it rain on ya girl! LOL

Enjoy the pics…xoxo

Credits:
Photography: Demarcus Bowser – 901.289.4290
Catering & Decor: Yours Truly

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People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work.  Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online.  All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme.  That’s not only wise but vital.  So what’s a nice guy to do?  You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo.  You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you. 

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You must be patient.  Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives.  Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online.  Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face.  She will think you are desperate or a pervert.  Patience.  Patience. Patience. 

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job.  A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit.  Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one. 

A picture really is worth a thousand words.  Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots.  If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head. 

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, like one of our events or during daylight hoursand that she bring a friend with her.  After all, you have nothing to hide.  You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you.  The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

Meet local Professional Women and Men at our events or online MemphisSinglesEvents.com

Kim…xoxo

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On Sunday May 19th in the privacy of my backyard with caterers, florists, hostesses, a band, photographer, and some phenomenal women, I hosted a brunch that I titled a Success Brunch. I hand picked 28 strong successful women that have been either inspirational, supportive, encouraging or just a plain ole great person to me, to come have brunch and celebrate a new beginning and a whole new life. I stood in front of 28 women and was very transparent about personal issues that I have endured since moving back to Memphis from California. Issues like having  half my belongings being stole from my California apartment to having my biggest real estate investment burn in flames killing my tenant leaving me with no income for months. So you wander whats the new beginning, well after all that misfortune (most not disclosed) God decided that it was time for his child to reap the benefits of all the hard work and tribulations I have been through for the last 4 years, and because I have vowed to not be so open with my social networks anymore, lets just say my payroll checks have commas-commas in them and they come twice a month and I still get the chance to be home with my daughters and my new grandbaby :) In return for what God has done for me, I have committed to give thanks for the next 30 days of any small to huge thing I can think of to be grateful for, so some of you probably have been seeing my FB post of the #30daysofthanks and I have asked all the women in attendance to join in with me and deposit thanks into a jar that I presented to each woman at the Brunch . The jar is clear and at the end of the 30 days the jar will be full and if at any time they or I should feel hopeless, depress, sad, or worried, we can look at the jar and remember how good God has been to us and rejoice. I encourage you to do the same, we are on Day 8.

A special thanks to the ladies that joined me and the ones that couldn’t especially my bff in Atlanta, I love you girl, my cousin Christina in St Louis a real boss, Marcia in Miami for those long convos :)  and to that special guy that made all this come to life, hmph, my my my….so ladies remember this “Girls compete with one another, but Women encourage one another. Let’s start supporting each other more and giving helping hands to our sisters, we are in this thang called life together!

Success is not a destination, its a Journey and I am on it! Cheers!

xoxo

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Sweet Baked Yams

November 5, 2012

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Cajun Shrimp & Grits

November 4, 2012

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Cajun Shrimp & Grits

Ok, y’all when I tell you that this was the best Shrimp and Grits I ever had, please believe me! Do not half step on any of the ingredients, if anything, add more. Let me know if you enjoy, food porn at home is the ishnit!

GRITS:
1c Grits
4c Milk
Salt to taste
Lots of Butter to taste more

SHRIMP SAUCE:
Raw Shrimp – Lrg, no shell
Bell Pepper
2-3 Garlic cloves
Onion
Celery
Bell Pepper
Pork Jowl or Bacon
Fresh Jalapeños
Diced Tomatoes (not too many)
1 can Chicken Broth
Heavy Cream
Seasoning (salt, pepper, red pepper, garlic powder)

**Optional
Shredded Cheese
Green onions

**So, first I never measure anything so just use your judgement of the veggies and seasoning.**

Ok, cook the grits first, nothing fancy, follow directions on the box, just use milk instead of water, when they are done, add some salt and lots of butter. The should look really white and thick! Make sure to use a whisk when stirring the grits in the boiling milk, this way they won’t lump up.

Next, make sure all your veggies are chopped up, and oh always use FRESH, not frozen, if you can :) cut your pork jowl or bacon up in dices, you must have some type of fat. Pour about 2 tablespoon of oil, olive or vegetable, in a hot skillet. Fry your meat and onions together, when meat is crispy, add your shrimp, season them, then removed only the shrimp when they are pink. Set them aside. Now add the rest of the veggies, fry until they are almost translucent. Deglaze skillet by pouring all of the chicken broth in the skillet, stir more, then add about 1/2 cup of heavy cream or keep tasting until your liking. BAM! You got your sauce!

Put a big heaping of grits in the middle of your plate, sprinkle with shredded mild sharp cheese and top with the sauce. Garnish with green onions, and serve with French bread, or some type of bread, because that sauce will be so good, you will want to sop it up with something!!!

Enjoy Food Pornos!!!

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20121102-131437.jpgNot that I don’t believe in networking events, I just haven’t been a fan of them, and especially in Memphis. I am constantly invited to participate in afterwork networking, networking fairs, network groups and I respectfully decline them all. Here’s why, being in the South people tend to be crabs in a bucket even at a “networking” event. Case in example, I’m at an event and meet the HR Director of a local organization, so we exchange cards. I follow up with an email then a phone call, you know to break the ice, start a relationship, but this person acts as if she never met me. So when I started seeing her out at other upscale events I would just speak. Then all of a sudden she suddenly remembers she met me a while back, come on $&@* really? But I go along with it, and guess what, we’re associates now, I got her cell number, she has mine, but did I accomplish this at a networking event, hell no, I did it because of my so called status or affiliations.

I think networking takes place at places and times that are not labeled “networking”. Case in example Black Girls Rock Memphis event, it was not a networking event, but networking took place because people wanted to know how to get tickets or wanted to know more about the women involved or our Sponsors. Let me further elaborate, last night while talking to one of my good friends who is the Director of Operations of a well-known organization here in Memphis, we were talking about next years Black Girls Rock event, and she didn’t realize that Wrapzody was owned by a black female, she instantly stated that she wanted to work with her on catering their daily lunches. I connected the two together. Bam! Networking! Not at an event, not at a fair, just plain ole girlfriend talk, and that my friends are how contracts, deals, and money are made. It starts with one word, relationships.

So shout out to the both of them for a win/win situation, and as for me I felt good because I simply made the connection and didn’t deter one from the other, by speaking negatively.

In the coming weeks, I will be putting together a group of women who are in the business of uplifting, encouraging, befriending, and helping other women, no red tape, just women doing what we do from grassroots to CEO levels! If I have came across you at anytime, you will be receiving an invite from me to join our circle. In the meantime, if you have the opportunity to connect women, refer women, speak positive about women, take a pledge to do so, because Karma is a bitch, good or bad :)

Maybe this video will inspire you: Click here for Video

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This was so unbelievable good, Five-Star dining ain’t got nothing on me!

Steak Frites

Ribeye Steak
Whole Peppercorns (medley)
Steak Seasoning
Butter
3 Shallots
3 cloves of garlic
Fresh thyme
Red Wine
Red Wine again for drinking :)
Heavy Cream
Shoestring Fries (fresh or frozen)
Shredded Parmesan / Asiago cheese
Garlic Salt – California blend
Minced garlic from the jar
Sea Salt to taste

*I don’t use measurements, I eyeball and taste to measure, sorry*

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N’walins Porn

October 2, 2012

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As you probably already know, me and my beau took a weekend trip down to New Orleans for a get-a-way. We had tons of fun visiting Bourbon Street, The Aquarium, and learning more about Katrina! but I gotta say that pre-Katrina the food was off the richter scale, post-Katrina, not so good. The best thing we ate was a piece of pizza that we had on bourbon street after some heavy drinking, but anyway I’ll post what we ate, oh and also on the train ride back home we had the best steak ever!

Happy Porning!

 

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